|The always provacative Laura Kipnis talking about why feminists can't make peace with fat, and the even better commentary about this piece over at The American Scene (read the original post too).
The core of the issue might just be that like attracts like:
Confident men are attracted to confident women -- and see them as no less feminine for it -- while insecure men prefer insecure women. In that case "femininity" doesn't have much to do with either self-confidence or lack thereof; it's whatever a
particular man happens to find attractive in a woman, and there's plenty of
variety in that.
D'oh - you think?